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The One Who Loves You the Most - Life As It Happens
Ok..I’ll take a deep breath and try to compose myself while I write this post. Those of us who are parents, we know and understand that deep and unbendable love that we have for our children - and if we could we would put them in a bubble and protect them from the harshness of life.
It is so hard to watch them grow up and know that you can’t protect them from all the negative things that they will encounter during their journey to adulthood. You know, all the hurt feelings, nasty words, the feelings of being pushed aside or left behind, and all the bumps and bruises. Well right now, my heart is absolutely breaking for my baby as he learns these lessons I would just rather skip over. I held him tight last night and I silently cried as he laid in my arms experiencing an overwhelming amount of emotional pain. I know that I can’t FIX everything and the man he is destined to be, and that his character will not be the sum total of these years - but the journey there sometimes just sucks.
I work hard to teach him to be kind and considerate to treat others the way he would want to be treated and to know when no one else is watching, God is. I want my son to grow up to be a man of his word and to understand that the choices he makes everyday is helping to shape his character. Looks, money, friends and worldly goods translates to nothing if he manages to loose himself along the way. I know that we can’t watch every step that kids make or fight away all the bad things but I pray that he remembers what he sees and hears here at home. For now, I think there are some who don’t remember that their actions and words really hurt others and choose to make themselves feel good while putting others down - I hate that my son now has to deal with those negative feelings. I am not foolish enough to believe that these things will never happen… but everyday from the same person is just way too much.
He’ll be ok, we will make sure of it. For now, we will continue to remind him everyday that God loves him, we love him and his worth is not determined by those who do not wish him well.
As I was putting together my latest slideshow this morning, I really listen to the words of this song and it really hit home - this is the message I want him to understand.
on 11th December 2009 at 10:59
patrice, you are such a wonderful mother, and i can just tell that you will teach your son such great life lessons that you can only pray he will take with him wherever he goes!
on 20th December 2009 at 14:20
Patrice, I just had to leave a comment on this particular post simply because it hits home for me. My son who is ten is going through this phase in his life right now as well. It breaks my heart to see how other children can be so cruel.. Ive always taught my children to be kind to one another and to treat everyone the way they want to be treated.. It was only two night ago that I layed down next to my son while silently crying over what he was going through.. I feel thoughts of anger and sadness in my heart and soul, and search deeply for the right words of wisdom.. As a mom I would do anything to protect my children, but I cant always be there. This beautiful post you shared made me feel your pain as a mom but also reminded me that im not the first one to go through this and certainly wont be the last.. Your son is one lucky young man to have you as his mommy and soon all this will pass.. Thank you Patrice, Thank you